Explore New Terrain: Only for the Bold
Sean Phelps D.C
Q: Are you actualizing your full potential?
Developmental coaching can help us to “purposefully evolve ourselves”. The difference between coaching and therapy is with coaching we are building resources. These resources are not addressing our lack within ourselves, but rather exposing one’s delusions.
You may be interested in understanding yourself in a deeper way, on an internal level. Maybe you would just like a happier life, reduce the amount of conflicts in your life or the difficult feelings in your life?
When babies grow up to be children, we see the obvious changes in them. They grow in size, They begin to speak, read and write.
How do we objectively know that as an adult we are developing?
What constitutes the stages of child development and how are are they recognized? How do we heal ourselves and find a therapist to help us with these stages?
Developmental stages have been mapped out through rigorous study and research over the past ten years. Having an idea of your stage can help navigate through some troublesome territory and can save energy, stop traumatization, save lots of money and time.
However, attempting Self-Mastery in a world that has become overwhelming to us requires Courage and Curiosity. To truly overcome anxiety, pain and fear of uncertainty, we have to be committed to boldy go where no man has ever gone. Anxiety is not a ‘problem’ but a natural human emotion. The nervous system’s response to uncertainty, mild threat, or stress is just like a smoke alarm that reminds you to change. Its aim is to heighten our senses and support us to discern how to create more safety.
A sense of anxiety can be related to physical, emotional or psychological safety. When the threats are more internal (emotional and psychological) and recurrent, we can develop a habit of chronic anxiety — perpetually playing a worse-case or worrying scenario/film in the mind. When anxiety becomes chronic, it interferes with our capacity for ‘joy’ in our lives, as well as our abilities to respond effectively in relationships or broader, societal issues.
If this is something you are interested in exploring, feeling your inner experience now, if you can, ask yourself is there anything happening right now? or is there something not happening right now and this is not what you want?
If you are interested in current neuroscience and bodywork that can help healing, optimizing your experience or simply would like to feel more stronger and dynamic to either get a job etc, or go to the gym, then please get in touch for a 5 minute free consultaion to see whether I can help.
Transformation is a word used a lot today and sounds great and the science says you can change the person you think you are, you can re-shape your mind, your body, your tension patterns, and even your ‘breathing’ patterns. However, it would be useful to have some sense of ‘well-being’ to use as a holding environment to venture into this terrain.
-What is Well-Being?
Two aspects of emotional/ Mental health are
- eudaimonia. A sense of purpose (Greek: εὐδαιμονία [eu̯dai̯moníaː]), sometimes anglicized as eudaemonia or eudemonia /juːdɪˈmoʊniə/, is a Greek word commonly translated as happiness or welfare; however, “human flourishing or prosperity” and “blessedness” have been proposed as more accurate translations.
- Hedonia. Pleasure, delight, suffix meaning “(condition of) cheerfulness”: anhedonia, hyphedonia, parhedonia.
So what is required to turnaround from “Coping” i.e; still holding the situation at arm’s length as something we have to put up with to ‘Acceptance’ that is the start of a transformation.
..”Acceptance is seeing what is true, without resisting that it is true”.
Monitoring emotions is a neccessity for development and is more natural for some of us. You could start by noticing basic emotions like ” anger, disgust, fear, sadness, happiness, and surprise. These emotions are a good place to start noticing, when they come up in your daily life.
*Please note that this may not be the right time to do this if you are experiencing PTSD or going through a life crisis.
“Just as you would not neglect seeds that you planted with hope that they will bear vegetables and fruits and flowers, so you must attend to nourish the garden of your becoming”.
– Jean Houston